Are
you a decisive person?
While
some people are deeply convinced Zodiac signs, and the traits that each one possesses,
hold credence with how we behave, I am not. I am a Libra, born smack dab in the
middle of the date range. Libras are “supposed to be” notoriously diplomatic,
and chronically indecisive. I am extremely diplomatic and fair, but I am also
very decisive. Maybe a little too decisive sometimes.
I
wholeheartedly believe you learn this skill. I learned to make thoughtful, and
thought out, decisions from my father. My dad takes decision making to the “nth”
degree, and considers, not only the positive results of said choice, but also the
potentially awful (“and if you can live with those”…).
I
don’t quite go to the depth of his process (not at all), but I did learn to,
and do, ponder choices, and then MAKE THEM to the best of my ability usually
relying on equal parts intuition and logic. I will admit to making far too many
stupid, and quick, ones in my younger years. But I made them. (I was a math
major through most of college; I don’t know why I think it helped, but I am
convinced of it did nonetheless.).
I
had a conversation yesterday with my daughter. Let me rephrase; she talked and I
listened. She was reevaluating a decision she recently, and quickly, made to
move out of our house and into a city apartment with some friends. Even thought
the first month’s rent was already paid, and most of her things moved out, she questioned
the rashness of her decision for a number of reasons.
She
described with well thought out, and sound reasons, her decision, and it’s
possible drawbacks. In her mind, the pros outweighed the cons, and I agreed.
She’s scared, but making decisions then sticking them out is sometimes scary. I am intensely proud of her.
This discussion reminded me of many times when
my kids were young. We talked a lot about making good decisions, and how not making a decision is also a decision, in and of its self. When you
chose not to decide, or leave it up to someone else, you have no
other option but to accept the consequences of your non-decision (good or bad). It is always better to make the choice yourself, rather than rely on someone else who may not be as thoughtful as you, have the same goals/values, or your best interests at heart.
My
daughter made an uncomfortable, yet exciting, but difficult decision to spread her
wings, exert her independence, and begin living her own life. It is bittersweet, and makes me sad because, as happy as I am for her, I will not be able to look at her whenever I want, or touch her soft
skin, but she made a decision. For herself.
